Selena Gomez, 30, opened up about her feelings and growing as a person in a new interview. The singer admitted she’s glad she went through heartbreak, including the heartbreak of her previous on-again, off-again romance with Justin Bieber, in her life, and still has “hope” to find love that is right for her in the future. “I feel like giving myself completely to something is the best way I can love,” she said in the latest episode of Jay Shetty’s “On Purpose” podcast. “But I never wanted the pain I endured to put some kind of protection over myself — an armor if you will — and I never let that happen because I still believe and I still hope.”
Selena went on to reveal that although there are “days I feel so far away” from being in another relationship, when all is said and done, “I’d rather keep getting my heartache than not at all don’t feel.”
The “Good For You” crooner had a very high-profile on-and-off relationship with Justin from 2011 to 2018 and also dated The week for 10 months before breaking up in October 2017. She discussed her love life and what she learned from the drama and struggle in her new documentary, Selena Gomez: My Mind & Mewhich was released on November 4. She also told Jay that she doesn’t want people to look at her and think she “has it all” despite her fame and fortune.
“I think I really wanted people to realize that I’m really not made up like that. i can be And I feel much better now. But I don’t want people to ever look at me and think she has it all. And she figured it out, and she’s perfect,” she explained. “I just want to be somebody that people can genuinely walk up to and say, ‘Hey, I understand what you’ve been going through. I also have.”
Selena also talked about being diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 2019, which she mentioned in her documentary, and how she dealt with it. “My favorite thing I say in the documentary: ‘I have bipolar.’ I learned how to live with it, and I just made it my friend,” she said. “To be honest, I’ve been to four treatment centers, and I have a lot of opinions about rehab if you will. There’s a lot I don’t agree with.”
After having profound experiences, she learned that accepting the reality of whatever situation she is in is what leads to change and improvement. “But what I will say is … learning lessons through dialectical behavior or cognitive behavioral therapy, there’s something that’s always been embedded in me through all those different moments in my life,” she shared. “And it was always to admit when something happened to me, to accept it. And once I realized that this was something that wasn’t going to go away…it wasn’t something that was going to be fixed by going to these places. It was more like, what do I know about myself. If I go down this road, I will be triggered, and I know that feeling and know how to avoid it. I do go to therapy though. I also take medication that I am fully on and believe in wholeheartedly. And it helps me stay balanced. But I still have to deal with it.”
Another poignant topic she talked about in the podcast interview was how she navigates critics and negative press about her. “I really had to learn the hard way how to deal with it … not give that clickbait that people want,” she said. “I do my best to eliminate these negative stories or other people who illustrate my journey. I interrupt them with my truth and that is what I will always continue to do. It is me who takes control of my story and no one can change it, or say anything else.”
“It actually gives me pleasure to combat it with love or kindness,” added. “I am grateful for my past, because it made me much stronger.”